Blogging highs and lows

February 28, 2017

Well, here I am, at the end of Month 2 of my personal yearlong blogging challenge. I have to say that this month has been even harder than the first. I guess peaks and valleys are to be expected. I just need to try harder. To be fair, though, it’s hard to keep up when not at home. I don’t lack ideas, I’m just having a tough time expressing them in short but sweet posts. I just feel like the growth and lessons that characterized Month 1 seem to have levelled out lately, but at the same time, I dislike the tendency to only just scratch the surface of the subjects I’m broaching. I guess I need to reconsider my strategy.

Here’s hoping Month 3 is mostly peaks and less valleys. Cheers!


You Never Really Know What Someone Else is Going Through

February 26, 2017

This guy was trying to scoot past another guy in line behind me the other day at a store. He said, “watch out?” in a pretty convivial tone. He wasn’t trying to butt in, he just wanted to slide by and continue his shopping.

The guy behind me (the one who was being asked to step aside) pretty much lost it and made an aggressively snarky remark, the message of which boiled down to “you should’ve said ‘excuse me’ dude”.

I found it a bit much, but didn’t turn around. I then heard the guy behind me tell the girl behind him that his reaction was purely because he’d had a bad day, and he was in a bad mood. That wouldn’t have set me off either, but then the angry dude made some unnecessary disparaging remarks about the passerby guy. Including unnecessary and low-blow insults.

Listen. Listen. Always be aware that other things are happening outside of your world at all times. You never know what a shitty day a stranger has been through at any given time. Regardless of the shitty day you’ve had yourself. You never know what happened to someone 30 minutes before you lost it on them for little to no reason.

I’m not saying that this was the case today with this guy. I’m not even saying that you shouldn’t tell people off at times (because at times, people deserve it). And I am absolutely not saying we’re not allowed to be salty about people (because people do suck a lot of the time). But this guy in line behind me was projecting his feelings onto this other guy who clearly had no ill will toward him. I was there, and I heard the jovial tone in the alleged offender’s voice. How does he know what the deal was with the guy who innocently excused himself without saying “please”? It was just unnecessary venom.

I’ve had days where I feel shitty and hopeless in my life…and through some irony, those days are always the days when I encounter someone who approaches me for help at the most inopportune time.  What I’ve found is that in those times when I feel the most sorry for myself, helping someone else out or just listening to someone else’s plight, even those of strangers, usually does me some good. Either it helps put things into perspective, or it just distracts me from my own train wreck momentarily, which is a good thing. And there’s some euphoria that comes from helping someone out, at least if you’re a human with empathy.

If you have first world problems, there’s usually someone with worse first world problems, let’s be honest. And there’s always someone with worse problems, period. If we could all just be a little more cognizant of that, and more considerate of each other in general, we’d all be better off.


But seriously

February 26, 2017

…I can’t stress enough that you should be watching Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. It’s literally my favourite comedy that is currently on TV. Rachel Bloom is a genius and everything about this show is so well done. Even if you hate musicals, I guarantee you’ll love this show’s musical numbers. They’re hilarious and riveting and not what you’d expect. This show’s comedy may be dark at times, but you can’t look away, I dare you. I just love everything about this show. I’m pretty new to it and I’m not even through the first season yet (almost, though, and I’m trying to catch up), but it’s one of those shows I almost immediately worshipped upon first viewing.

Please give it a try so that it doesn’t get cancelled prematurely! It’s critically acclaimed but still underrated by the masses. I promise you won’t regret it.


Would You Rather

February 22, 2017

Given the choice, would you prefer to be in a series of highly stimulating, generally healthy relationships, with no guarantee of happily ever after, or have one life partner you felt somewhat bored but comfortable with? Which scenario spells success for you personally?


Thought of the Day

February 21, 2017

I wonder how many days in a row of watching the waves on the beach would be too much for me.

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I’m fairly certain that number does not exist.


Anyone have tips on ways to drink coconut water?

February 20, 2017

I’ve heard great things about coconut water and its hydrating properties, but I have such a hard time choking it down. I dilute it majorly, but I still can’t get past the slightly sour taste.

The weird thing is that I love coconut. But the water, no. It probably doesn’t help that I love the pristine taste of regular water. Coconut water reminds me of slightly sour milk.

Any ideas on what to mix it with to make it go down easy?


Three Ways to Fast-track Emotional Intimacy

February 18, 2017

In my personal experience, there are a few situations that always end up advancing relationships. Three things in particular come to mind when I think of notable moments with friends, family or love interests.

Fire or candlelight: I am all about a nice roaring fire or some strategically placed candlelight. There is just something about the amber hues and the warmth of the flames that make a situation conducive to confiding or just good ol’ cuddling. Even solo, I could sit and watch a fire all night, and just get lost in it. Pair it with someone I am fond of, and there’s a whole other layer. Something about the coziness makes the situation foolproof for bonding.

Late night conversations: if you want to get closer to someone, platonic or otherwise, I’d recommend a late phone convo. Whenever I find myself hanging out with someone well after midnight for an extended period, chances are good that I will emerge from that hangout closer to the person than when I went in. The same is true for late night phone conversations…although I know most of you don’t engage in phone convos these days. You should, though. Something about a lazy and relaxed discussion with someone you care about, but with a phone line between you to eliminate any in-person pressure to physically react a certain way, makes the interaction easy going. And induces an intimacy that would not come so easily otherwise. Suddenly, you’re telling things you didn’t think you would, and learning things about the other person that you never thought you would.

Road trip: whether by car or bus or train, this is one of my favourite ways to connect with someone. Being on the open road just gives you a sense of connection akin to if you were the last people on Earth. Being confined to a vehicle with people just gives you a sense of togetherness you can’t deny. If you already like that person, and assuming you are emotionally compatible with them, you will probably emerge from that vehicle feeling more affection for them, and likewise, they will love you more.

At least this has been my experience with emotional intimacy. Share yours! 😏